The One

Don't know what came over me this morning but suddenly was thinking of there's someone out there waiting for me. Pretty much liked being single -- even though am in this confusing non-relationship with my ex.

So. Does anyone believe in "The One"?

Weddings and Engagements

Though I like being single, still can't help but look at wedding photos and beautiful wedding anecdotes over at So You're Engayged. What does this say about me? That am outwardly cynical but hoping for a fairy tale ending?

Feh. Never going to happen.

In other news...now frequently visiting Tammy Lynn Michaels' poetic blog. Used to be a fan of Melissa Etheridge...now won't be able to listen to her music knowing what a horrible bind she left her ex-wife with.

Dear Malditera

Someone actually requested for love advice. Yikee, ask the single girl, huh? Will try to see how this post might be of help...

Situation:
Girl Y fell in love with Girl Z but wasn't sure whether Girl Z would reciprocate. So Y spends an entire year showing Z, who seems to like Y's company, that she means business. Did the whole nine yards for the woman. Y finally decides to get her answer after a year, which Z had effectively eluded for a good 12 months. Z then tells Y that she had been holding a torch for this man for as long as she can remember. Y is devastated.

Straight man thinks Z is being selfish for not telling Y earlier that Y never stood a chance.
Gay man thinks Y should stop communicating and move on.
Malditera's Ex thinks Y unloaded too much on Z and didn't give Z enough time to process.

Two days ago, she decided not to pursue Z anymore. But today, she sends Malditera a message: "Ookay! Convince me again why I should not attempt to communicate with her over the next couple of weeks. Haha! I need to constantly remind myself by reading your advice."

Malditera says:
Since I actually forgot most of what I had said during that conversation with Y, Straight Man, Gay Man and The Ex...will just try to be as coherent as possible.

• Have some pride, girl! How long are you going to make yourself suffer this unrequited love?
• Give her space to digest what you really are to her. She can't do that if you're always in her business.
• You've given her the entire year. Do this for yourself, for a change.
• Competing with a phantom is an exercise in futility. Do not underestimate the power of laser-like focus.
• If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Don't force it.

I try to understand...but some straight people are just irksome.

Especially when they try to convince you that gay people who've decided to go straight became happier.

Really now? You're straight, what do you know about what they're going through? Of course, they won't tell you if they're miserable!  You're straight. You cannot even begin to imagine the internal struggle gay people have to live with.

Irritating line of the day:

They're happier because they're living normal lives now.

Response:

If by "normal" you mean, tricking some poor straight member of the opposite sex into marrying us just so we can live a standard lifestyle, where genuine passion does not exist, well...I think we should start redefining the word "happy" as well.

(The irony is, most of the straight women that utter that preposterous line don't even like being touched by their husbands. One of them actually told me she wishes he'd get a mistress so he'd leave her alone. Sure has a funny way of defining "happiness" within the boundaries of marriage. She may be happy, but I doubt if her husband would be happy to know that his touch disgusts her...)

Two different court decisions on crimes against women.

Acquittal of Hubert Webb et al. (Vizconde Massacre case)
Acquittal of Hayden Kho (Sex Video Scandal)

It's almost reminiscent of one of my Comparative Literature classes, where my professor required me to discuss an essay on Literature and the Law by Richard Weisberg and Jean-Pierre Barricelli (Interrelations of Literatureby Barricelli & Gibaldi, 1983). The essay spoke of how two similar cases could yield astonishingly different results and that the differences lie in how the judges wrote their verdicts.

The legal process, like the literary, moves from an experience in life toward a narrative re-creation of that experience. However tightly bound to evidence and the logic of events, the re-creation needs the bridging or collating powers of the imagination to put together the scene, or the picture, in all its details. (p. 162.)

For these two cases, the court decision went in favor of the defendants. My reaction to the results, however, are worlds apart.

My two cents:
Hubert Webb: Innocent. We don't have enough evidence and the "star" witness keeps changing her testimonies. If he really is innocent, then the 15 years he spent in jail is a grave injustice.

Hayden Kho: Arsewipe. Here's a snippet from the article that is truly enraging: "It becomes a crime only when the said act 'alarms or causes substantial emotional or psychological distress to the woman.'" Pray tell, what part of that sex video leakage -- involving tens of other women -- is not distressing?