Situation:
Girl Y fell in love with Girl Z but wasn't sure whether Girl Z would reciprocate. So Y spends an entire year showing Z, who seems to like Y's company, that she means business. Did the whole nine yards for the woman. Y finally decides to get her answer after a year, which Z had effectively eluded for a good 12 months. Z then tells Y that she had been holding a torch for this man for as long as she can remember. Y is devastated.
Straight man thinks Z is being selfish for not telling Y earlier that Y never stood a chance.
Gay man thinks Y should stop communicating and move on.
Malditera's Ex thinks Y unloaded too much on Z and didn't give Z enough time to process.
Two days ago, she decided not to pursue Z anymore. But today, she sends Malditera a message: "Ookay! Convince me again why I should not attempt to communicate with her over the next couple of weeks. Haha! I need to constantly remind myself by reading your advice."
Malditera says:
Since I actually forgot most of what I had said during that conversation with Y, Straight Man, Gay Man and The Ex...will just try to be as coherent as possible.
- Have some pride, girl! How long are you going to make yourself suffer this unrequited love?
- Give her space to digest what you really are to her. She can't do that if you're always in her business.
- You've given her the entire year. Do this for yourself, for a change.
- Competing with a phantom is an exercise in futility. Do not underestimate the power of laser-like focus.
- If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Don't force it.
